Friendship Lesson in Quarantine
2020 has been a year of self-reflection in more ways than one. I’ve reconsidered just about everything in my life, which has been both helpful and overwhelming. I’ve learned many things from this self-reflection, including what I’m looking for in a friend and who still fits into my life.
With a global pandemic came a lesson consisting of people’s true character. Add in a national election and a mass conversation on race relations and you really learn where people’s priorities are.
One of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned about relationships has been reinforced within the last few months: You aren’t going to click with everyone, and that’s okay. It doesn’t need to be a big, emotional thing either. You meet a lot of people in life, and sometimes you don’t always gel well together. You don’t need to make other people wrong for you to be right either. Sometimes people are just not the people for you, and it’s as simple as that.
It can be painful when you realize someone you wanted in your life isn’t a good fit. What makes it more painful is trying to force the relationship to work. You usually leave the relationship in the end wishing you walked away sooner, but it’s a moment of living and learning.
I’ve learned that forcing relationships isn’t something that I need to be doing. The right people will click and stick around. It may take a while (a lot longer than wanted) for these people to come around, but it will make it that much more worth it.